If a
small group of people, no more than 5 to 10, gathered in your church to
unofficially decide how to move your church toward a position that the Bible
calls sin, who or what would be the most important person or authority to stand
between them and the congregation?
Seemingly, the very people who have plotted
such an action, have given the church a very large clue. In the National Gay
and Lesbian Task Force’s document, Building an Inclusive Church a welcoming Toolkit 2.0: Helping your Congregation Become a
Community that Openly Welcomes People of all Sexual Orientations and Gender
Identities, the pastor and the true grace of God stand between sin and conspiracy.
The toolkit begins the active process with this:
“The first step in a Welcoming Process is to gather a group
of five to ten people who share your passion for the full inclusion of lesbian,
gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people in the life of your congregation.
These people will form your Core Team, and will work together to advocate for,
design and shepherd the Welcoming Process.”
The welcoming process includes meeting with individuals on a
one on one basis in order to establish relationships and find out how various
people feel about the ideas presented in the toolkit. Leaders in the church are
also approached in a one on one relationship meeting. After all of the meetings
and a survey the core group considers how fast the process should go. That
includes looking at all of the power structures in the church, both the formal
ones and the informal ones.
There is this statement about the pastor:
NOTE: If your clergy
is against the process, it is very difficult for it to proceed. They do not
have to be ardent supporters, but active opposition to a Welcoming Process on
the part of clergy makes it very difficult for the Welcoming Process to
succeed. If you do have clergy opposition to a Welcoming Process, stay in the
“Core Team” phase of your work and focus on relationship-building with the
clergy and informally work within the congregation. We recommend working only
through Step Four of this Toolkit until the clergy are no longer opposed. (Bold
the authors)
This is
truth coming out of the pen of those who will harm the sheep of God’s pasture.
The pastor stands as the one who watches over, guards and nourishes with God’s
word the people of Christ. A small group of people intent on having their way,
beginning in secret and one by one picking off members of the congregation need
to hear from a pastor immersed in the word of God. And it is the word of God
that both those who are unaware of the gathering activity and those who are
operating in a nefarious way need to hear.
The
National Gay and Lesbian Task Force use a process they call “Graceful
Engagement.” They refer to it as “deep listening, seeking “that of God” in the
people with whom you engage and finding the ways in which God is revealed to
you through them.” They add:
“Graceful Engagement is a way of practicing holy
conversation, where each person is treated as a loved child of God. It is about
listening, sharing one’s own story, hearing one another’s perspective, finding
commonalities and shared experiences. It is about building relationships around
values that bring us together as opposed to things that polarize us.”
In the appendix of the document
is a questionnaire about what grace means. And there is a list of Bible texts
to explain how grace works:
“the Parable of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10:29-37), the
Woman at the Well (John 4:4-26), the Greatest Commandment (Matthew 22:35-40),
Peter cutting off the ear of Malchus in the Garden of Gethsemane (Matthew
26:51-52), and Jesus on the Cross (Luke 23:34)”
While
one can commend the authors for suggesting that the conversations should contain
grace and civility—these texts contain much deeper thoughts then how to
gracefully encourage others into your plans and agenda. They are certainly not
about how to gracefully encourage others to enter into sin.
For
instance, Jesus points out the woman at the well’s sinful lifestyle that she
might more willing see her need for the true water of life. The greatest
commandment spoken of in Matthew 22:35-40 is to “Love the Lord your God with
all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.” One can hardly
love God in that way and intentionally live contrary to the word of God. The
second great commandment is “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” You
cannot love your neighbor and encourage them to continue in sin. Jesus loved
his enemies as he died on the cross but he did not excuse their sin but died
that they might be transformed.
The
grace of God, the true grace of God, holds well with John Newton’s hymn “Amazing
Grace.” “Twas grace that taught my heart to fear and grace my fears relieved.” The
grace that the Holy Spirit brings is transforming because it is the grace of
Jesus Christ bought by his death on the cross. It does not welcome the sinner to the dark
world of her own sin, but rather welcomes the sinner into the fellowship of the
Trinity and into the fellowship of the church.
The National
Gay and Lesbians Task Force Document offers things to do after becoming a
welcoming church. One is extremely offensive:
• Gather a discussion group to examine
the gendered language in your bulletin, newsletter, sermons, liturgies, and
hymns. Talk about the assumptions these language choices imply and who might
feel constricted or excluded by the gendered wording. Explore creative ways to
avoid exclusively binary-gendered language, such as “men and women,” “sisters
and brothers,” and “mothers and fathers.”
Between
this and the congregation stands a pastor who loves Christ and his word; stands
the grace of God given because of Jesus’ life death and resurrection, stands a
church well taught by the pastor, leaders and teachers; stands a people
committed to their Lord. May Jesus Christ protect his church.